“Choose to use good words. Make someone feel good rather than making someone feel bad, because you don’t know how much you can damage a person by just one sentence.”
This quote is from UK based plus size model Olivia Campbell in a video that was just uploaded about her view on the word “fat” and how she accepts it, not as an insult, but as a fact. While watching this a recent experience came to mind.
Easter Sunday I was walking with my family to Starbucks, I was closest to the road and had the…oportunity, to hear what a guy said about me to his friend. I so badly wanted and wished I was just a few inches in the other direction, or there was some noise that would have prevented me from hearing what he said, and laughed about. As much as I acted like it didn’t effect me, it did, it was on my mind the rest of the day and I haven’t gone a decent amount of time without those words popping into my head.
“look at that fat slut”
That’s what I heard, I can still see the smug smile on his face and hear the tone of his voice, like he was telling some stupid party joke. No one else in my family heard and I kept it that way until later when I told my aunt. I didn’t want to ruin my family’s day, and I didn’t want to give this random guy the power to ruin my day.
Watching this video changed my perspective, this woman who had horrific, unimaginable experiences as a child has became a strong and powerful role model. She still got emotional thinking about how that word was used against her as a child, but by not giving the word “fat” power as an adult, she took the power from the people who intended to hurt her. She became powerful, and in control of how those words affected her, or if they did at all.
I can think back about my experiences, the times I was bullied, called fat and beached whale among other things, and still get sad and angry. But from here on out I am not going to willfully give my power away, and I am not going to let those words, or people, affect me. I am going to allow them to empower me, and make me stronger. I encourage all of you to watch this video, I hope it will change your perspective like it has mine.
See you on Monday!